tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post1965376386403643748..comments2024-03-28T00:19:09.468-07:00Comments on Stuck In Scared: 'The never ending story'Kimmiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-16776707164852148422014-07-19T06:23:17.967-07:002014-07-19T06:23:17.967-07:00'That' even o_O Why do I always notice the...'That' even o_O Why do I always notice the typos after posting lol xKimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-33440864979955781022014-07-19T06:22:20.002-07:002014-07-19T06:22:20.002-07:00I'm not sure how I missed your comment in Janu...I'm not sure how I missed your comment in January but I'm sorry taht I did (how rude of me o_o) <br /><br />Thank you for your lovely words, support, encouragement - I do hope my (belated) response reaches you :) <br /><br />God bless <br /><br />Kimmie xKimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-66347205601103196222014-07-19T05:53:27.395-07:002014-07-19T05:53:27.395-07:00I second what this lovely lady says xI second what this lovely lady says xLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-9733812551287833902014-01-25T04:46:05.094-08:002014-01-25T04:46:05.094-08:00It sounds to me as though you are being very hard ...It sounds to me as though you are being very hard on yourself. You are determined to give your children better memories of their childhood, while at the same time ealing with mental health issues and special needs: you are only human, we all have bad days and we all have breaking points, wishing you all the very best xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-76152374097227813062013-01-08T23:50:25.605-08:002013-01-08T23:50:25.605-08:00Heya Kimmie,
The boys are ten and four. So eldest...Heya Kimmie, <br />The boys are ten and four. So eldest doesn't respond to stuff like that anymore. <br /><br />Hugs to you. Juliesnotebookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09028141603260983336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-28811323861267152402013-01-08T15:28:36.384-08:002013-01-08T15:28:36.384-08:00I think we all shout at times hun we are only huma...I think we all shout at times hun we are only human, Im far from perfect! My shame at the time of writing this blog was that I had a mental illness melt down and screamed hysterically, not at my child or hubby, it was just a scream, a kinda mini break down release! I was upset that she witnessed it!I think the important thing is to just be honest with our kids, admit when we are in the wrong or not feeling great, say sorry if required and teach them to do the same!<br /><br />Sounds like your eldest knows which buttons to press. bless him! You love him, he knows that! Have you tried star charts ect, positive reinforcement? worked for my son who has ADHD, tho we did have our ups and downs lol :) <br /><br />Thanks for reading and commenting<br /><br />God bless<br /><br />Kimmie x<br />Kimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-46704043752719174482013-01-08T11:52:21.702-08:002013-01-08T11:52:21.702-08:00I also relate to this :-(
I shout embarrassingly l...I also relate to this :-(<br />I shout embarrassingly loud and hear myself yell things like "do that again and you'll regret it you little ..." normally in response to my eldest deliberately physically hurting his younger brother.<br /><br />Now I'm not an ogre or anything and I try to behave properly but when he attacks his brother my instincts are to protect the smallest, as he's not able to protect himself. Then I feel so bad. I know my eldest thinks I hate him- I don't! He just triggers me in so many ways, even deliberately whistling even though I've beggggged him not to! <br /><br />I will always instantly protect the most vulnerable as I did as a child (stayed in danger on purpose as the SS wouldn't remove youngest sister from the family home. I had to protect) and honestly I hate it! Juliesnotebookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09028141603260983336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-26013927849903804792012-12-15T03:54:16.062-08:002012-12-15T03:54:16.062-08:00Thankyou so much for those reassuring comments Dom...Thankyou so much for those reassuring comments Dominic, I am not a perfect mother by any means, my Gambling addiction which I have yet to write about hurt my older children and though I have been free from gambling for over eight years now, I too carry the shame of letting my children down in the past. I stand by my *no smacking rule* and work hard these days to not give in too any form of escapism that might hurt my kids but I am mindful of the fact that while my mum wasn't perfect neither have I been! I am glad things are better for you and your mum these days and that you have each other,I am sure you will make a great parent, you sound like a very caring person.<br /><br />God bless you and yours<br /><br />Kimmie x<br /><br />Kimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-84581288234951849152012-12-15T02:20:17.874-08:002012-12-15T02:20:17.874-08:00I admire you Kimmie your childhood wasn't grea...I admire you Kimmie your childhood wasn't great but you still seem to turned out to be a nice caring person. It doesn't matter if you have mental health issues as I once read , Today you are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is you-er than you!' <br />I didn't have a great childhood my stepdad was abusive and nasty mainly to me because I was ginger some of the things he did still upset me. People say 'why didn't your mum do anything? I would of done something' my reply is always the same, my mum tried but she was a victim of domestic violence you don't truly understand domestic violence unless you live with it my mum was told day after day she was a slag or a slut just because she made the wrong thing for tea or she was a bad mum by my stepdad and after a while she believed him she gave up hope I watched my mum change from the nice caring lovely mum I knew to a stressed upset person who would cry when she went to bed. I can still remember hearing her crying in her bed at night. Thankfully she did leave him 3 years ago and life has got better now my mum has returned to her old self.<br />I'm 18 now and I hope one day I make a good parent like you even if my childhood like yours wasn't great. Thank you for tweeting this website I really do admire you. <br /><br />Dominic (@domdom1919) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07656629221071977027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-35165954301717284962012-12-04T13:34:58.428-08:002012-12-04T13:34:58.428-08:00Thank you Irene,For reading and for taking the tim...Thank you Irene,For reading and for taking the time to reach out to me! Your words are encouraging.<br /><br />God bless you and all those you love <br /><br />Kimmie xKimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-51320632884464966712012-12-04T09:54:00.243-08:002012-12-04T09:54:00.243-08:00You are proof positive, Kimmie, that the abuse nee...You are proof positive, Kimmie, that the abuse need not continue to the next generation. Finding role models from those you saw in other families when growing up and being aware that you did not want to expose your children to the childhood you had obviously gave you the strength you needed and need to continue on your own path, a path that takes much strength, determination and self-awareness. Bravo! May you continue to find strength from God and the Lord. Finally, what strength to have written such a brave post. God bless! xxirene speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15306297235592610766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-74812432646824113002012-12-04T08:00:39.659-08:002012-12-04T08:00:39.659-08:00Beautiful words Joy, Thank you so much. You have a...Beautiful words Joy, Thank you so much. You have a way of putting things into perspective for me. I always feel strengthened by your words and I am grateful to you for reaching out as you do.<br /><br />God bless you <br /><br />Kimmie xKimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-3518292453855776322012-12-04T07:57:58.397-08:002012-12-04T07:57:58.397-08:00Thankyou, It was a difficult post to write, I am s...Thankyou, It was a difficult post to write, I am struggling with guilt today and wondering wether I should have posted this piece, my mum is a different person to who she was then and now trys very hard to reach out to me! The problem in our relationship is now with me rather than her, I find it hard to let her in!<br /><br />It was cathartic to write but has left me feeling dis_loyal!<br /><br />God bless you and those in your care<br /><br />Kimmie xKimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-30498912228164473912012-12-04T07:24:09.935-08:002012-12-04T07:24:09.935-08:00When we come from a background of abuse of whateve...When we come from a background of abuse of whatever description, there is often a lingering fear in our minds that the cycle may be repeated through us and on to the next generation. Your very open awareness, personal faith in God and determination to be the best mother you can be to your own little ones, is the reassurance you have that - while flare-ups can surprise and terrify - you do not have to repeat the patterns you grew up with. The buck can stop with you.<br />You have so much inner courage, honesty and strength Kimmie. As you pour out your own story you are helping others to relate and know they are not alone in their struggles.<br />Take heart, my friend, you have everything going for you and your children are blessed to have such a loving, watchful and perceptive mother to care for them. Their memories will be positive ones. May God give you His confidence, rest and peace in the midst of your turmoil :)Joy Lentonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03486637586238798088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-48001622174540426242012-12-04T06:57:03.272-08:002012-12-04T06:57:03.272-08:00Thank you so much for sharing this. I can't im...Thank you so much for sharing this. I can't imagine how hard it must be to do that. I work at a shelter that provides services and safety to women and kids who are survivors of domestic violence or sexual assault. I'm sure that many of them feel as you do. Reading your blog helps me understand them some much better. Blessings and strength to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09229627877113967782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-14566545563285610422012-12-03T14:50:59.420-08:002012-12-03T14:50:59.420-08:00Love the child. You weren't there, but you'...Love the child. You weren't there, but you're the adult now. Protect the child that needs you to love her. It can be done. It wasn't your fault and it wasn't personal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-12436239562531061682012-12-03T14:44:46.319-08:002012-12-03T14:44:46.319-08:00HI hun, Thank u for your supportive comments both ...HI hun, Thank u for your supportive comments both here and on twitter! I think your children are very lucky to have such a warm and caring mum!<br /><br />God bless<br /><br />Kimmie xKimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-71658759751661917012012-12-03T14:42:51.748-08:002012-12-03T14:42:51.748-08:00If you relate then here is a (hug) for you too! I ...If you relate then here is a (hug) for you too! I am sure your daughters good days far outweighed the bad!You obviously care very much about her happiness!<br /><br />God bless you<br /><br />Kimmie x Kimmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10974750428498873046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-33331720798545873262012-12-03T13:49:35.482-08:002012-12-03T13:49:35.482-08:00You are breaking the cycle....you can see the thin...You are breaking the cycle....you can see the things that your mum did wrong and you are doing your best not to repeat those. It is hard but when we are not on guard our mother come back through us. But you are learning to stop things and prevent then happening again. I hope the good times out weigh the bad times for my children too.<br /><br />Best wishes and thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5159777151156423826.post-80857823182719963592012-12-03T13:40:59.447-08:002012-12-03T13:40:59.447-08:00How I can relate to this post :-( I could have wri...How I can relate to this post :-( I could have written it myself, the volatile mother....me swearing I would never be like that, and as you say, years down the line, subsequently "screaming like a mad woman" at my own daughter...the daughter I promised myself I would never do that to. (((hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com